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How No Fear + No Experience = Getting It Done

Updated: May 20


When faced with new circumstance usually with no prior experience people likely make preparation their focus.

Whether she’s getting ready for a new client session or a presentation, life coach Miyako Kobayashi usually will over prepare. According to her, the reason on big prep stems from a complex of rookie syndrome. “Typically it’s normal human conscious insecurity,” In Miyako’s words. “The concern to not be ridiculed, or be made fun of — we all can relate to those memories as children — even if they leak into our feelings as an adult.” Given our 2nd nature for edification, planning and knowledge before key situations, Kobayashi confesses an effective way to prep for a new situation is to simply not prep.


GET PAST “THE HOW WILL I DO HEAD TRIP”

Those who are habitually over prepared have the “HOW WILL I DO HEAD TRIP,” or desire to affirm an expert authority status as Kobayashi puts it.

Her solution to shut down how will I do head trip, is to simply acknowledge that you are still learning and others will know and accept this.

IF KNOWLEDGE IS THE CLASS THEN EXPERIENCE IS THE TEACHER

Kobayashi clarifies that not much is learned from preparation. Ideally to learn something, she says, is to engulf yourself in the experience. Plainly put “total immersion learning.”

When people go into a new situation, whether it’s making a speech or trying a new sport, they tend to make preparation the focus. A better solution would be one making the experience the true educator.

Be Relateable In Your Experiences

Kobayashi confirms having a "how will I do head trip" is a common hindrance with clients. She determined she could educate them on appreciating new experiences by educating herself in real time. Last July, she sent out a broadcast in her newsletter she would be hosting a live YouTube video for the 1st time.

“At breakfast the morning of I was visiting my sister. I suddenly became very nervous ... I had 2nd thoughts about about actually doing no prep work ,” Kobayashi recalls.

She had written a quick reminder to reference all her speaking points, she says, in the event she became paralyzed with fear. This was the extent of her preparations.

“So I literally grabbed some coffee and got right to it.,” Miyako recalls. “ It was like, ‘I don’t really have experience in this, but I’m going to tough it out regardless.”

In short it was a success.

Creating the atmosphere for her clients to observe her learn she also gave rise to aiding their learning in real time.

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HOW TO ELIMINATE THE FEAR OF NO PREP

  • Don't seek to show perfection: Those who are habitually over prepared are likely to have “How Will I Do Head Trip,” or desire to affirm an expert authority status. Her solution to shut down the how will I do head trip, is to simply acknowledge that you are still learning and others will know and accept this.

  • Experience is the teacher not preparation: Ideally to learn something, she says, is to engulf yourself in the experience. Plainly put “total immersion learning.”When people go into a new situation, whether it’s making a speech or trying a new sport, they tend to make preparation the focus. A better solution would be one making the experience the true educator.

  • Teach and inspire through experience of practice: Do not give in to the fear of being known to be learning.

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